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Today got off to a strange start. A friend of many years sent me an email to tell me that Barbara Bel Geddes (Miss Ellie out of Dallas) had just died.

As I read through the mail it occurred to me that he was part of a Barbara Bel Geddes web ring. Before I got a chance to ask, his email went on to clarify that 'yes, he was on the mailing list'.

I took this as a clear admission that he was indeed gay. A sort of coming out of the email closet if you will.

Nowadays it's kind of trendy to be bi-curious, camp or at the very least, have a token gay friend.

According to my research, all the marketing girls here (alright the 4 that I bothered to ask), have stated that they think gay men make better friends than straight men. Almost as good as best girl friends in fact.

Sample reasons given included better fashion sense. Interest in shoes. A love of 'girly' films and actresses. Cleanliness and generally more sensitive to a girl's needs.

When pushed, it turns out that only one of the girls actually knew a gay man and that he was her brother, which I think should automatically rule him out as a 'gay man friend'.

I have a 'gay man friend'. He is small, round and bald yet very hairy in a nose, ears and back kind of way. He usually wears the classic white collar desk jockey uniform of slacks and shirt. Jeans and jumper at weekends. Similar to bank clerks and call center employees the world over.

In regards to a love of girly' films, I know that he did go to see Titanic but hated it. He thought Leonardo Di Caprio was a ride though and went off on a crude tangent about what he would do to him if he had him drunk and / or immobilised in his flat late one hypothetical night.

He prefers 'The Soprano's' to 'Sex and the City', which he doesn't get, it being "too girly".

When in the company of women he is inclined to gloss over with a disinterested detachment. Whenever I've brought this up, he merely replies that he just doesn't "get Women. They're too ... I dunno, girly". I think it's because he has no intention of ever shagging them. In any hypothetical scenario.

To tell you the truth, he's just as shallow, self centred and sex obsessed as most of my other friends, which makes him great craic in my book.

It would also suggest that most of the marketing girls I work with don't know what they're talking about.

But i suspected that anyway.